Friends

My husband and I were talking last night about our wedding last December 22, 2007. After the call, I came to a realization about "friends".

I realized, I have more Friends that him. He might as well disagree but that's the way I see it. Why? Let me explain by asking what Friends do.

- Do "friends" come near you only when you are happy, and gone when you are sad?
- Do they talk behind your back?
- Won't they accept you if you have a decision that they don't agree with?
- Do "friends" refuse you and you offer them to be the Godparents of your kid that they don't even know you or your spouse conceived?
- Will they be absent on the most important day of your life, when you receive the sacrament of marriage?

Well then, if the answers to these questions are all yes, then they are not your "friends". What are they, then? For me, the are mere actors and actresses (or players), that take part into
your life, so that your life wouldn't be that boring. But for me, I'd rather have a pretty much boring life that have these actors/actresses around me. But what can I do? I'm just a human being also living in this world with these players.

But one might say, these so-called "friends" have their own reasons, "valid reasons". But what are valid, anyway? Is it more valid than lending a shoulder to a troubled friend? More valid than being true and honest to him, and not plastic? More valid than accepting who you really are? Or accepting a resposibility that is shared to you without prior knowledge about it? Even more valid than being there on your most important event?

I know my hubby will really disagree. He still considers these actors/actresses as his friends. But me, what recently happened just proves me right, they are not my Friends, and shoudn't be considered as a Friend by anyone as I believe.

I've got a lot of Friends. They are there when I call them, distance is not an issue. They don't talk behind my back, still accept me for who I am, because they know, we are all the same, we all have our shortcomings. And most of all, they were there in the most important days of my life, my delivery and my wedding.