Love and Separation

My brother and his wife separated. I just learned last night, and they only told my Sister and I about it.

My brother is the only boy in the family. He and his wife have a daughter, whom I love very much because she's my first niece. My brother worked very hard to support his family, he even went to Bahrain for a higher wage. When he was away, he always told me, he wanted another child. For 10 years, he told me, he wanted Utchik (his daughter) to have a sibling. When I told him about my baby, he always texted me, he's excited to see my son. He misses to see a baby. He loves babies. When he finally got home last May 23, I was looking forward to having a new niece/nephew (I was actually hoping for a nephew, his heir). But now that they're separated, all hopes are gone.

I really pity him. It was so stupid of me to give him this problem, that in fact, he also has his own problems. And so stupid of me not to notice about the separation. I know that his wife always sleeps in their house whenever he goes home. Why didn't I notice that in the first place.

I pity him because he loved her so much, that he'll do everything for her. I pity him more because he needed to work away from his family for their sake. And I pity him most because she left him, not trying to work their marriage out. I don't want to judge her and say she didn't do anything. But the fact that she left, and didn't wait for my brother's return, makes me think, she really doesn't love her. In her last text message, she said that started to feel pain with love and that she has to save herself from that pain, adding that one can find another love, but not self. Isn't that a word from a selfish person, who doesn't really understand love.

I admit, I'm very much younger and doesn't really know that much about life, but I know what love is. It's not suppose to be painful - it's hard, but not painful. Once you've found love, and understands what it is, you won't say you can find another one, because love happens only once, there's no second chance. And I believe, if you understand love, you'll learn that it is your life, thus part of yourself.

Now I'm starting to believe, she doesn't really love my brother. And if that's the case, then he deserves someone far better than her, that will love him with all her heart, and will never say that love is painful. My brother deserves someone who will love him back.

*sigh