My Ate complains so much. Not that she complains on me, but her husband does. This month, I've received text messages from him, saying that my sister doesn't love him anymore, or since the day they got married, her love fled (I don't actually know to where, but I'm certain it's not to whom). They were married for five years now, but this dilemma in their relationship just came recently.
Sometimes, I'd wake up to my brother-in-law's text message, asking me what was happening to my sister. She won't talk to him and kept in ignoring him. Then I'd reply, "Kulang lang na ug laag si Ate" (She just lacks strolling). When she was still pregnant with their second baby, her husband would text me, is she always like that? Having tantrums, he meant. I told him it's just mood swings, after all, she was pregnant. The last time he texted, he told me there she goes again. Everytime she's not in the mood, she'd tell him she doesn't love him anymore. I was thinking, "Come on! Is she following our sister-in-law's footsteps???". I mean, my brother's life IS complicated, and her life is really nothing compared to it. I'd accept if my brother will always feel helpless, but not her. Anyway, I just told my brother-in-law that he needs to talk to her. They need communication. I mean, my husband and I have been there before (not as husband and wife, though), but I do know how my brother-in-law feels.
She has actually no reason to complain about her current status. She has a very loving and kind husband, a healthy and wealthy living, a house, and her husband has a business. Compared to our brother and myself, she's the luckiest. Our brother's family is broken, he works away from us, and I know, he doesn't have that much money. My life, on the other hand, is not as complicated as his, but not that fortunate as her, too. I have a one-year old son, and yet, I'm almost 6 months pregnant, my husband is far from us and his job is just enough to support our son, my job is just enough to support myself and this second child (so if I stop working, it will be very hard for us), I'm living with my mother-in-law on weekdays, then with my parents on weekends and my mother want's me to stop working after delivery (that's the time everything will be harder). So my sister is waaaayyyyy better off than us. But do we complain? Well, maybe our brother does, but I don't. I feel lonely, and down, but I don't complain. Complaining means accepting that in this game of life, you already lose. Have I lost? Not yet, because I'm still young.
There are more people in this world that are much less fortunate than us, but some of them still face life with a smile, and still thank God for having a life. The secret to this game is contentment. My sister is not contented with what she has, at least it's how I interpret my brother-in-law's text messages. But we don't have the right to complain about everything. We are alive, and that's enough reason to not complain. I wish my sister will realize that.
Sometimes, I'd wake up to my brother-in-law's text message, asking me what was happening to my sister. She won't talk to him and kept in ignoring him. Then I'd reply, "Kulang lang na ug laag si Ate" (She just lacks strolling). When she was still pregnant with their second baby, her husband would text me, is she always like that? Having tantrums, he meant. I told him it's just mood swings, after all, she was pregnant. The last time he texted, he told me there she goes again. Everytime she's not in the mood, she'd tell him she doesn't love him anymore. I was thinking, "Come on! Is she following our sister-in-law's footsteps???". I mean, my brother's life IS complicated, and her life is really nothing compared to it. I'd accept if my brother will always feel helpless, but not her. Anyway, I just told my brother-in-law that he needs to talk to her. They need communication. I mean, my husband and I have been there before (not as husband and wife, though), but I do know how my brother-in-law feels.
She has actually no reason to complain about her current status. She has a very loving and kind husband, a healthy and wealthy living, a house, and her husband has a business. Compared to our brother and myself, she's the luckiest. Our brother's family is broken, he works away from us, and I know, he doesn't have that much money. My life, on the other hand, is not as complicated as his, but not that fortunate as her, too. I have a one-year old son, and yet, I'm almost 6 months pregnant, my husband is far from us and his job is just enough to support our son, my job is just enough to support myself and this second child (so if I stop working, it will be very hard for us), I'm living with my mother-in-law on weekdays, then with my parents on weekends and my mother want's me to stop working after delivery (that's the time everything will be harder). So my sister is waaaayyyyy better off than us. But do we complain? Well, maybe our brother does, but I don't. I feel lonely, and down, but I don't complain. Complaining means accepting that in this game of life, you already lose. Have I lost? Not yet, because I'm still young.
There are more people in this world that are much less fortunate than us, but some of them still face life with a smile, and still thank God for having a life. The secret to this game is contentment. My sister is not contented with what she has, at least it's how I interpret my brother-in-law's text messages. But we don't have the right to complain about everything. We are alive, and that's enough reason to not complain. I wish my sister will realize that.
Melay
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hehehe kulang lang guro ug pansin :D
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