Here I am again, ranting. I know it's not good, and my husband told me not to do this, but I can't help it. Besides, this time I'm not naming names, so what the heck?
My cousin lives with us. She was my son's nanny before, and I was giving her enough salary (I think it's higher, though). But she asked to stop working and to go home (she said her father said so but I don't believe her). So what could I do? I don't want my uncle or our relatives to say something bad about our family, so I let her go. That was also one of the reasons why I stopped working. My son didn't have a nanny anymore, and I was to give birth, so I had to go home. My mom encouraged me because I was a little upset. She said it will be okay, we can handle it. So that was fine with me. My cousin left by the end of September.
But on November, when my family went to Sirawan (to visit my grandparents' graves), my cousin requested my father to come back (all that sweet talking...sheesh!!!). My father didn't really care so he agreed. When we came home, I told my sister that our cousin wanted to go back, and that's when she told me about what our cousin really wanted before. Ate said that she wanted to work with her, but Ate didn't permit it (because of me). Ate didn't like the idea that she left me in the middle of my problems, and now she wanted to work with her? That'll be impossible. She didn't know my sister's real reason, though.
So my cousin came back a few days after my delivery. She didn't work as my son's nanny, though, since I don't really want her back. Now her job is to help my mom with the household chores. She does the laundry, sweeping, anything. She wakes up at around 5:30 am, cleans the windows, sweeps the floor, does some gardening, then after breakfast, does the laundry. After doing the laundry, there's nothing she can do anymore, so she watching tv, or goes directly to the room and God knows what she is doing. In short, the hardest (or heaviest) chore she does everyday is doing the laundry. But although it's the hardest, the quality isn't that good. The smell is still there, the colored clothes fades, and the dirt is still there (like chocolate or juice stains). My son's t-shirt has light blue sleeves. Now, it's plain white. Chocolate stains are also left and my mom would repeat washing the clothes.
Other than that, she leaves the house in the middle of the week, goes to town. And during Sundays, during her day-off, she seldoms help at all. Not that I don't want her to take her day off, but since she stays at home, she might as well even the littlest chore as setting the dining table during meals. Then everynight, when everybody else is busy, she just sits in the living room, watching the television, or texting.
You might think that I'm just overreacting since she's doing what she's suppose to do. But I'm ranting because even I help in the house. I am used to helping with the chores since I grew up without a helper. That's why eventhough I'm holding my daughter, I still help with the chores: sweeping, setting the table, arrange neatly the living room, watch over my son, etc. And I'm ranting because while I'm multitasking, I can see her sitting, doing nothing to help. I'm nt asking her to be aware as my mom's helper. I'm asking her as my cousin who lives with us almost free of charge. All I want from her is a little bit of consideration.
*sigh...I feel better now.
My cousin lives with us. She was my son's nanny before, and I was giving her enough salary (I think it's higher, though). But she asked to stop working and to go home (she said her father said so but I don't believe her). So what could I do? I don't want my uncle or our relatives to say something bad about our family, so I let her go. That was also one of the reasons why I stopped working. My son didn't have a nanny anymore, and I was to give birth, so I had to go home. My mom encouraged me because I was a little upset. She said it will be okay, we can handle it. So that was fine with me. My cousin left by the end of September.
But on November, when my family went to Sirawan (to visit my grandparents' graves), my cousin requested my father to come back (all that sweet talking...sheesh!!!). My father didn't really care so he agreed. When we came home, I told my sister that our cousin wanted to go back, and that's when she told me about what our cousin really wanted before. Ate said that she wanted to work with her, but Ate didn't permit it (because of me). Ate didn't like the idea that she left me in the middle of my problems, and now she wanted to work with her? That'll be impossible. She didn't know my sister's real reason, though.
So my cousin came back a few days after my delivery. She didn't work as my son's nanny, though, since I don't really want her back. Now her job is to help my mom with the household chores. She does the laundry, sweeping, anything. She wakes up at around 5:30 am, cleans the windows, sweeps the floor, does some gardening, then after breakfast, does the laundry. After doing the laundry, there's nothing she can do anymore, so she watching tv, or goes directly to the room and God knows what she is doing. In short, the hardest (or heaviest) chore she does everyday is doing the laundry. But although it's the hardest, the quality isn't that good. The smell is still there, the colored clothes fades, and the dirt is still there (like chocolate or juice stains). My son's t-shirt has light blue sleeves. Now, it's plain white. Chocolate stains are also left and my mom would repeat washing the clothes.
Other than that, she leaves the house in the middle of the week, goes to town. And during Sundays, during her day-off, she seldoms help at all. Not that I don't want her to take her day off, but since she stays at home, she might as well even the littlest chore as setting the dining table during meals. Then everynight, when everybody else is busy, she just sits in the living room, watching the television, or texting.
You might think that I'm just overreacting since she's doing what she's suppose to do. But I'm ranting because even I help in the house. I am used to helping with the chores since I grew up without a helper. That's why eventhough I'm holding my daughter, I still help with the chores: sweeping, setting the table, arrange neatly the living room, watch over my son, etc. And I'm ranting because while I'm multitasking, I can see her sitting, doing nothing to help. I'm nt asking her to be aware as my mom's helper. I'm asking her as my cousin who lives with us almost free of charge. All I want from her is a little bit of consideration.
*sigh...I feel better now.
Melay
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